Welcoming visitors into your home should be a happy occasion, but if you’ve got a reactive dog, it can feel more like preparing for battle. Whether it’s barking, lunging, or just general chaos, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. The good news is that, with a bit of preparation and the right approach, you can help your dog stay calm and make visits far less stressful for everyone. Here are some straightforward tips to get you started.
1. Know What Sets Your Dog Off
Reactivity isn’t random—your dog is responding to specific triggers. It could be the sound of the doorbell, a stranger entering their space, or even the energy of someone new. Spend some time observing your dog and note what tends to spark their behaviour. Once you know their triggers, you’ll have a better chance of managing the situation effectively.
2. Create a Safe Retreat
Every dog needs a sanctuary where they can escape and feel secure. For reactive dogs, this is especially important. Set up a quiet room, crate, or corner where they can relax, undisturbed. Make it cosy with their favourite bed, toys, and even calming music or a white noise machine. Teach them that this is their safe space using positive reinforcement—think treats and praise.
3. Desensitise at Their Pace
Helping your dog feel comfortable with visitors is all about baby steps. Start with a friend or family member they’re somewhat familiar with. Have this person stand at the door without coming in, rewarding your dog for calm behaviour. Gradually increase the interaction as your dog’s confidence grows. Always work at a pace that keeps your dog below their stress threshold.
4. Teach Them to Settle on a Mat
A solid “place” command is a lifesaver when managing reactivity. Start by training your dog to go to a specific mat or bed on cue and stay there. Once they’ve got the hang of it, practise with minor distractions before introducing visitors. This gives your dog a clear job to do, which helps them feel more in control.
5. Use Tools Wisely
If you’re worried about safety or control, tools like leads, gates, or muzzles can help. Introduce these tools positively, so your dog doesn’t associate them with punishment. For example, a lead can guide your dog to their safe space, while a baby gate allows them to observe from a distance without feeling cornered.
6. Prep Your Guests
Visitors can accidentally make things worse by doing the wrong thing—approaching too quickly, making direct eye contact, or trying to pet your dog straight away. Have a quick chat with them beforehand to set expectations. Simple things like ignoring your dog at first and tossing treats gently onto the floor can make a huge difference.
7. Keep Greetings Calm
When visitors arrive, avoid hyping your dog up. Ask your guests to come in quietly and let your dog observe from a safe distance. Allow your dog to approach when they’re ready, but don’t force it. Keeping the atmosphere calm helps reduce your dog’s stress levels.
8. Reward the Good Stuff
It’s easy to focus on the barking or lunging, but don’t forget to reward calm, appropriate behaviours—even if they only last a few seconds at first. Have high-value treats ready and be generous with your praise. The more your dog connects visitors with positive outcomes, the more progress you’ll see.
9. Start Small
If your dog is just starting their training journey, don’t overdo it. Keep initial visits short and sweet. It’s far better to end a session on a positive note than to push your dog to their limit. Over time, you can gradually extend the duration of visits as your dog builds confidence.
10. Ask for Help
Sometimes, reactivity can feel overwhelming, and that’s okay. If you’re struggling or just want some guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. A trainer experienced in reactivity (like me!) can offer tailored advice and a clear plan to move forward.
A Quick Word of Encouragement
Living with a reactive dog can be challenging, but it doesn’t mean you have to live in lockdown. With patience, the right training techniques, and some extra preparation, you can help your dog feel more at ease when visitors come around. Remember, progress takes time—but every small win is a step towards a calmer, happier home.
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